How It works
The thing that brings you to me is where we begin.
It might be the anger that keeps erupting, the thoughts that won't stop racing through your head, the reaction that seems way bigger than the actual moment, or the sense that something isn't how you want it to be.
And I won't assume I know what's underneath it, because what you're experiencing now may only be one part of what's going on — a signpost towards something that needs your attention.
So we get curious instead.
Not just about what you're thinking, but about what you're feeling, what your body is telling us, the parts of you that may be trying to protect you, what your subconscious mind might have learnt along the way, what might be showing up in your energy and what your own deeper knowing has to say.
We're not looking for what's “wrong” with you; we're getting to know you.
And from there we can begin to listen to what's being expressed, responding to what's actually there and taking care of what actually needs taking care of.
We start by bringing you into the here and now
Before we begin exploring what's here, I'll help you arrive more fully in yourself.
We slow things right down and bring your awareness back to you, noticing things such as your feet on the floor, the support beneath you, your breath and what's happening inside.
Then we connect above and below, with Mother Earth and with something greater than you: God, Source, the Universe, whatever your name for this energy is. Because we're not going into this work unsupported. That connection helps resource you before we begin exploring what needs your attention.
Then we come to the heart.
Often, what you've brought with you is complex. There may be several different threads, emotions, parts or layers involved.
So, to help us begin with what's most important for you, I'll invite you to connect with your heart and ask:
What needs caring for first?
Then we notice what happens.
You might feel an emotion straight away. There may be tears. You might notice a physical sensation, a memory or an image. Your mind might suddenly go blank, or you might feel resistance, or you might get absolutely nothing.
All of it is information.
There is no “right” answer. Whatever comes up gives us somewhere to begin.
And whatever that starting point is, we meet it as it is.
It may be anger, sadness, fear, frustration or something else entirely. There may be swearing or ranting or crying. Whatever it is, we give it room to be expressed rather than trying to shut it down.
For instance, if you're fucking furious, I won't try and calm you down. Instead, it's where we start. There isn't one prescribed response, because we're working with what's actually there for you as an individual.
If there's a part of you digging its heels in and saying "Absolutely not", we are not going to try and push past it.
Instead, we're going to get curious about what's there and what it's trying to do for you. What does it believe might happen if it stopped?
Sometimes a part of you may be responding to something that happened a very long time ago, and it hasn't realised that you're different now, that you're not five anymore.
And sometimes there are two parts of you pulling in completely different directions — one desperate to change, the other equally determined to stay put.
We don't take sides; we listen to both.
As we work with what's there — through tapping, conversation, parts work, inner child work, energy work or whatever feels appropriate — something changes.
An emotion may lose its intensity; a protective part may realise the job it's been doing isn't needed anymore and find a different way to support you.
Something that never felt safe enough to explore before might now become possible to be with.
And often, when we begin with one thing, something else moves or emerges. An emotion might lead to a memory. A thought might bring up something in your body. Something that seemed completely unrelated might suddenly appear.
You don't need to decide in advance where any of it is going.
We follow what actually comes up.
Transformation doesn't come from trying to force your feelings or your reactions to change. It comes from meeting them, listening to what they're telling you and responding to what they need.
What then becomes possible?
It could be as simple as someone else's bad mood returning to just being their bad mood rather than becoming, "Oh God, what have I done? Is this my fault? How do I make it better?" whilst feeling tense and uncertain and needing to work out what you should do next.
When you're not caught up in everything the moment has stirred up inside you, there's more freedom in what happens next.
Sometimes you might even surprise yourself. Not because you're trying to respond differently, but because different responses become available to you.
There's less of you managing, fighting or controlling, and more of you available to meet the moment you're actually in.
You don't have to solve it on your own
I want to be clear. You are more than capable of doing a great deal for yourself, and now that you understand more about what's actually going on, you may choose to do exactly that.
But it can be a real hindrance to be both the person experiencing what's happening and the person trying to work out what to do with it.
And that's why I do the work I do.
I've spent more than a decade working with people and the emotional messiness that comes with being human. I'm used to working across different layers — with emotions, the subconscious mind, energy and the spiritual.
And I have a substantial toolbox to draw from, including EFT, Matrix Reimprinting, Reiki and other forms of energy healing, NLP, coaching, IEMT and years of experience working with parts.
You don't need to know what combination of those might help you.
That's my job.
You bring what's happening for you. I'll ask questions, track the changes and stay with you as things emerge and unfold. I'll guide where we go, drawing on my experience and whatever combination of approaches feels appropriate as we work.
Your job isn't to solve what's happening. It's to be with what you're experiencing and let me know what happens as we work with it. It's my job to guide where we go from there.
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